Supermodel Chrissy Teigen’s IVF journey has been quite difficult but she continues to talk about it openly, insisting that hearing about these stories gives hope to other infertile couples.
IVF is expensive and it offers no guarantee of success, but there is not much else you can do. Sometimes IVF can be successful in the first go, but for most people it takes a couple of chances.
Chrissy Teigen also did not have it easy—she was devastated when her IVF cycle failed. There are many reasons why IVF fails, and it is not always possible to know why.
Dealing with IVF failure
“You hear stories about IVF working the first try. But you’ll hear a lot more stories about when it takes a few times,” she said in an interview with The Cut. “Ours didn’t work the first time, and it was devastating. You realize that a lot of it is luck, and you can’t blame things on yourself.”
However, like a lot of women, Teigen initially took the blame and tortured herself into thinking that somehow she was responsible for the failed IVF.
“The first round I did of IVF, when it didn’t work, I remember thinking, ‘Oh, I was on my feet too much, and that’s why.’ You just look for anything to blame, especially yourself,” she said. “I think hearing stories is just really important. You realize there’s no right way to do it, or right way to react.”
Never prepared for parenthood
Oddly, even after she succeeded in getting pregnant with IVF, she didn’t feel prepared for what was to come.
“It’s kind of crazy because even though you do all this planning and preparation, you take progesterone and inject your body and do all this stuff—and when I finally did get pregnant I was like, ‘Oh crap, are we ready?’” she said.
Nothing really prepares you for parenthood and people will tell you that you will never really be ready. So whether it is IVF or natural conception, you will feel a little nervous, but you just go for it.
Chrissy Teigen talks IVF
Teigen, who gave birth to her second child on May 17, 2018, recently opened up the IVF discussion again.
On being questioned by an Instagram follower about the conception of her second child, Teigen admitted, “Yep, he was just on ice a smidge longer, science and the human body are beautiful.”
When other people objected to the fan’s inappropriate question, the Lip Sync Battle host calmed them down saying: “I wasn’t offended by it – people are just curious and I think hearing success stories gives people hope.
“I’m all for talking about IVF.”
She was immediately lauded by people who could relate. “Too many people bury infertility in shame. It shouldn’t be so taboo,” commented a fan.
While another one remarked: “Yes to all of this, and to destigmatising the process and the conversation around it!”
A mother, who also conceived through IVF, wrote: “Thank you @chrissyteigen for being open and honest about it! It definitely DOES give us hope!”
Backlash over fertility discussion
From their previous cycle of IVF, Chrissy and her husband John Legend had one embryo—a boy. On disclosing that they had specifically chosen to use the female embryo in their first attempt, they faced a lot of backlash.
“We didn’t create a little girl,” she wrote at the time. “We had multiple embryos, girls and boys, we simply chose to put in a female first (and second). You’d be surprised at how many people you know go through this.”
“From reading everything tonight, I think I made a mistake in thinking people understood the process better than they do, which is my fault,” Teigen tweeted in response to all that criticism.
She admitted to trying naturally for about nine years, before they finally resorted to IVF.
Teigen said that if it had happened naturally for them, they’d have had children 5-6 years earlier.
She also condemned people for constantly speculating why someone does not have children, because they might be going through something you aren’t aware of.