Even though Hugh Jackman and his wife, Deborra-Lee Furness, were always prepared for adoption, they had to go through the despair and disappointment of failed IVF treatments before finally embracing the joys of parenthood. Hereâs Hugh Jackman on failed IVFs, repeated miscarriages, and the importance of having open discussions on the subject.
The pain of suffering a miscarriage is brutal. âUntil you go through it, you donât understand, itâs not talked about a lot,â Hugh said in conversation with ABCsâs Katie Couric, while on her talk show for the publicity of his film Les Miserables.
He clarified that adoption was always on the table: âDeb and I always wanted to adopt. So that was always in our plan. We didnât know where in the process that would happen but biologically obviously, we tried and it was not happening for us and it is a difficult time.â

Why did they want to adopt?
The Wolverine star met Deborra-Lee Furness (who had done 25 films and was already a famous actor) on the sets of ABCâs Australian prison drama Correlli in 1995. They got married the very next year. Their plan was to have their biological children and then adopt later, he had earlier told the Herald Sun.
A-list Hollywood stars often have struggles and uncertainties that are only made worse by being in the public eye. For Jackman, it was his journey to becoming a father.
âIt was painful,â he said of the time they discovered that having biological children isnât going to be straightforward.
âItâs not easy. You put a lot of time and effort into it, so itâs emotional. I think any parent can relate â trying to have children is wonderful and when you feel as though thatâs not going to happen, thereâs a certain anxiety that goes with it.â
Hugh Jackman on Failed IVFs & miscarriages
Over 50 percent of patients who undergo IVF experience failure.
âItâs a good thing to talk about it. Itâs more common and it is tough. Thereâs a grieving that you have to go through,â said Hugh Jackman on failed IVFs.
âWe did IVF and Deb had a couple of miscarriages. It happens to one in three pregnancies. But itâs very, very rarely talked about. Itâs almost secretive, so I hope Deb doesnât mind me bringing it up now.â
Adoption of Hugh Jackmanâs children
The wounds were healed and âall the heartache just melted awayâ once their son, Oscar, came into their lives.
Having their child brought a rush of emotions for Hugh and Deborra-Lee.
Born on May 15, 2000, Oscar Maximilian Jackman became a part of Hugh and Deborraâs family. Five years later, they were joined by a baby girl named Ava Eliot Jackman.
âParents know you canât prepare for that moment. Nothing can prepare you⊠You canât even explain how incredible it is and that avalanche of emotion that comes and how it opens up your heart, how it frustrates you, how it angers you, how everything is just all the sudden how alive you are as a parent,â said the actor.
Hugh Jackman also talked to the Australian Womenâs Weekly on how parenthood had brought about wonderful changes in his life.
âItâs been one of the most amazing and difficult journeys. Parenthood is so rewarding, but sometimes so hard,â he told The Weekly. âI donât know how this happens, but nothing stirs your emotions more than your kids⊠They make you face who you really are.
âI suppose if parenthood has taught me anything, itâs taught me humility.â
However, for the 51-year-old actor and his actor-producer wife, 64, the experience of IVF and miscarriages was so difficult that âheâd never forget it.â
Age factor in fertility
The Greatest Showman star opened up to PEOPLE editor-in-chief Jess Cagle about the arduous journey that finally brought their childrenâson Oscar Maximillian, now 23, and daughter Ava Eliot, now 14âinto their lives.
When they got married in 1996, Furness was 40 and Jackman 27, so they decided to have babies as soon as possible.
They were right in being concernedâage does impact a womanâs ability to get pregnant and even with IVF the chances of getting pregnant after 40 are quite low.
âBecause of her age, we started [trying] straightaway when we were together,â he said. âWe struggled, a couple miscarriages, [in vitro fertilization] â it was not easy. It was difficult, obviously particularly on Deb.
âI remember saying to her, âWe were always going to adopt â letâs just adopt now.ââ
Consideration for adoption
Once prepared for adoption, Jackman and Furness started to consider âthe needâ and they decided it was the most for mixed-race children. They never tried to find babies based on their physical characteristics.
âOur motivation behind adopting was, âWhere is the need?ââ Jackman said. âAnd we just knew from talking with people in that space, when we were looking around, that the biggest need is in mixed-race kids.â
Many people, when looking to adopt, try to look for kids that bear some resemblance to them but for the Jackmans this was never an issue.
What really matters according to Hugh Jackman?
âI believe in life and I want to tell my kids that your personality is interesting, it in some way very much defines you, the color of your skin, whether youâre a male, whether youâre a female, but thatâs not who you really are,â he said. âWhat really defines you is beneath all that.
âIt doesnât matter what sexual [orientation] you are, it doesnât matter what job you do, it doesnât matter if your hair is straight or curly, if youâre tall or short, man or woman, what race you are⊠What defines you as a human is underneath all that.â
Hugh Jackmanâs cancer diagnosis
Back in 2013, the actor was diagnosed with basal cell carcinoma (BCC), a kind of skin cancer, when his wife noticed a mark on his nose and insisted, he get it checked. She was right, and he ended up getting multiple surgeries to get rid of the cancer.
âPlease donât be foolish like me,â he told his fans. âGet yourself checked. And USE sunscreen!!!â In 2017, he was still getting the cancer removed but assured that all is well via a post on his Instagram handle.
When he was just eight, Hugh Jackmanâs mother, Grace, left for England and never came back. His father however, proved to be a rock, taking care of Hugh and his four siblings. The actor said he learnt so much from his father. It was all âabout loyalty, dependability, being there day in, day out, no matter what. Itâs always about the family,â he said during an emotional TV interview.
Perhaps thatâs one of the reasons for him being such a family man. Jackman said he never spends more than two weeks apart from his wife and their two children.